Sunday, 22 January 2012

How To Be A Supportive Wife?

“Are you still holding on to your integrity?  Curse God and die” Job 2:9
What a great supportive wife!  But hang on a minute, she was spared when the rest of his family were slaughtered.  She had been through all the family trouble with Job except for sickness, and when he got sick, she caved in and said that. 
Maybe it was out of love and she didn't want to see him suffer, she had definitely come to the end of her tether though and couldn't see that things would ever improve.   
Job calls her a foolish woman and says “should we accept good from God and not trouble?”  I myself have said to my husband, "you’re wasting your time.  D’you really think that job you applied for are gonna call you back, we both know they’re not.  Give up."  How could I be so negative?  Because I’ve got used to him never hearing back from applications and interviews?
Yes, God has been good to us and we aren’t quite on the scrap heap yet, we have our health and our marriage is just about surviving, but the period of very low income has been hard to bear.  We have both rejoiced in the good times and we both have to weather the bad times, and know that God is a God of fairness and justice and we will never know in this life the rhyme or reason of the paths our lives take, but we can know that eventually our blessings will be uncountable, more than we can imagine.
It's time to stop doubting and start trusting "I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted" Job 42:2


  1. hmmmmmm....not sure what to say here......I wonder if there are more unemployed husbands than wives.....i'm thinking of leaving my wife.....even though I don't have a permanent job...and am surviving on temp jobs....she, on the other hand, has a good, permanent job.....

  2. It is hard. We're both self employed, but hubby lost his main business two years ago, trying to become employed after self-employment has proved impossible! I guess I'm trying to look at the bigger picture and not concern myself overly with what is or isn't happening for us here and now, we are both Christians so that gives us a hope for the future, the eternal future!

    I pray things work out in your relationship, we have teetered on separation over the last two years, (not due to work situations) but again, I suppose our faith helps to hang in there and work on it for the sake of the bigger picture!

    Got your DM on twitter the other day and have been meaning to reply, but accidently deleted, d'oh!

  3. Yes I can imagine her getting to that point and saying that! I still marvel at Job's response though, about accepting trouble from God as well as good. I hope that things will go better for you soon.

  4. Thanks Rhoda, it's incredible to try to understand Job's response, but he was doubly blessed in the end so there is hope!

  5. So glad to see that you gave Mrs Job the benefit of the doubt. We read her words and sometime forget that she had been through the loss of ten children and was now seeing her husband broken and hurting before her eyes...
    As for the applications... yes build up your husband, encourage him, and never forget that God is Jehovah-jireh, the Lord who provides. Spend some time resting in Psalm 34 and hang on to the word "all" as you rest

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